Wedding Guestlist – Who to invite

Hello hello! So Wedding Season is in full swing with bells a ringing… and blue birds singing.
Wedding Guest List
So, let’s get into it – Guest list’s are one of the most important pieces of the wedding. It allows the couple to share their day with the most important people in their lives, and brings families and friends together to celebrate the love shared.

As wedding planning can be a stressful task, planning the guest list is not the easiest (times this by a billion if you’re a young Muslim Girl in Cape Town).

Here are some tips to getting the inviting down to a tee:

Start with the parents – understand what it is they want to do, regarding the guest-list, and who they expect to be invited (with larger families it’s usually mom and dad’s aunts, uncles and cousins). Especially in Cape Town (and mostly with Muslim families) this is extremely important, as the chances that your parents are supporting you, financially, for the wedding, are quite high and to be courteous, you need to consider their ideas.

Narrow the numbers – get the total numbers of guests and use this as a baseline. If, for example, you’re having a wedding of 100 guests, you’re not going to invite Aunty so-and-so whom you don’t remember from the time she looked after you when you were 5. You will most likely stick to best friends, and aunts and uncles (or all your cousins, if you’re really close).

Start close – your best friend from primary school (who you haven’t seen in 10 years)? Yeah, trust me, you don’t need to. With my own wedding I decided to invite people that I had only seen in the last year or that had been to my house within the 6 months before the wedding… This may seem harsh, but I wanted to share my day with those who shared my life with me and people who had actually met Labeeq (my husband) before we got married.

I was invited to yours, so I must invite you to mine –  this is a common dilemma of couples, that I have heard time and again. Just because you were invited to someone’s wedding, this does not mean that they must be invited to yours. If you aren’t that close with someone (say college/university classmate) and you were invited to their wedding of 500 guests, do not feel obligated to invite them to yours (if you’re having a wedding of 200 guests).

At the end of the day – it is your wedding, the day to celebrate your love and share it with those who are close to you.

It’s over in a flash, so it’s important as to who you surround yourself with.

Would you want a big wedding, with loads of guests? Or a small intimate affair with a handful of people?

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Choosing a Theme – Baby Shower

Baby Showers! This is a celebration in countries, worldwide, to commemorate the pending birth of a baby and shower mom with gifts for baby-to-be.

Usually a party for moms only, the trend of co-ed showers are slowly coming into play, as it’s just as important for the dad, as it is for the mom, to prepare for the birth of a new bundle.

As we are currently in the process of planning my sister and brother in laws baby shower, I thought it would be a great platform to advise those who are planning and tell them not to fret! What’s tried and tested so that you don’t have to pull your hair out.

Generic/Unknown Baby Shower

This is for the parents who want to keep mum (excuse the pun) about the baby’s gender – so the options are endless!

Not just for your standard pink and blue decor, think black and white, monochromatic colour’s if you’re more minimalistic. The theme should be simple and convey the message that the gender is unknown – while still giving away to the fact that this is a baby shower.
Blue and Pink Baby shower theme
Traditional Baby Shower
Generic Baby Shower | Black and White
Generic themed baby shower
 Circus themed baby shower

For the fun and outgoing parents to be – the circus theme is more whimsical and all about the fun elements.

Think candyfloss and popcorn or hot dogs and carousel themed cupcake displays.

But, don’t be fooled, this theme is unisex and can be implemented according to any gender. You can also opt for the bright and bold colours, as this theme is all about shock and awe!
Dessert table for circus baby shower
Circus Themed Desserts


Popcorn | Ready to pop baby shower
Mom’s pregnancy craving perhaps?


Cirque Du Bebe Invites
Bebe Cirque Invitations


Circus themed baby shower | Tightrope walker
Tight rope circus walker


Parisian/French Baby shower theme

This is by far one of my favourites – think pretty and think glam and Parisian is the theme you will get.

All about the textures, lush and ornate, Parisian/French baby showers will make any mom feel glamorous and beautiful.

Blush, creams, greys and gold are your go to palettes – with splashes of black to add drama.

French Baby Shower
Gold and blush | French Baby Shower
French/Parisian Baby Shower
Parisian Baby Shower


French Cafe
Cafe And French themed baby shower

Modern Baby Shower theme

For the mod parents – choose a theme that incorporates fun elements, prints and textures while still keeping a fresh take to the traditional baby shower.

The colour palette of modern baby showers expands much further than just your average pinks and blues.

Modern Baby Shower Theme
Polka dots and Punch
Modern Baby Shower
Baby Shower | Modern Theme
Baby shower theme
B is for Baby

Minimalist Baby Shower Theme

Less is more – and minimalist baby showers are perfect for the parents who want the party without the frills.

Minimalist baby shower theme
Minimal Baby Shower


What kind of theme would you suggest for baby showers?

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